The 5 Stages of Unplugging

I read an article this morning about the 5 stages of grief (confronting death) and how they apply to coming into acceptance of a previously rejected truth. Yes, I know, there’s no end to the ridiculous interpretations of this played-out pop-psych list, but I was curious about how this might apply to an AFC coming to grips with unplugging from the Matrix, so I did a bit of searching and what did I find on my blog roll search but this:

今早我读了一篇文章，关于悲伤的五个阶段（面对死亡）以及它们如何适用于接受一个先前被拒绝的真相。是的，我知道，这个被过度使用的流行心理学列表有着无穷无尽的荒谬解读，但我好奇这如何适用于一个 AFC（平均普通男）面对从矩阵中解脱的现实，所以我做了一些搜索，结果在我的博客滚动搜索中发现了这个：

  1. Denial – Still Plugged -In: “These game guys are a bunch of clowns, there’s no way this works on women. Women aren’t stupid. What a bunch of misogynists.”

否认 – 依然沉浸其中：“这些游戏玩家不过是一群小丑，绝不可能对女性起作用。女性并不愚蠢。真是群厌恶女性的人。”

  1. Anger – Post-Red Pill: “This is ridiculous! Why should I have to jump through all these hoops for women? I just want to be myself. Why couldn’t I have been a Natural Alpha®? I blame my parents/siblings/teachers/God/liberals/feminists/media/society, maybe George Sodini, Andres Breivik, James Holmes wasn’t so crazy after all.”

愤怒 - 红丸后：“这太荒谬了！为什么我得为女人跳这么多圈套？我只想做我自己。为什么我就不能天生是个自然阿尔法男®呢？我怪我的父母/兄弟姐妹/老师/上帝/自由派/女权主义者/媒体/社会，也许乔治·索迪尼、安德斯·布雷维克、詹姆斯·霍姆斯也没那么疯狂。”

  1. Bargaining – Unplugged: “Well maybe it does have some good points…but, forget the hot girls, they’re way outta my league. I’ll give it a try if it can help me get around the bases with a plain Jane. Do I have to wear the fuzzy hat and black nail polish?”

讨价还价——原声版：“嗯，或许它确实有些优点……不过，别提那些辣妹了，她们完全不是我的菜。如果它能帮我搞定一个普通女孩，我会试试的。我得戴那顶毛茸茸的帽子和涂黑色指甲油吗？”

  1. Depression – Bitter Taste of the Red Pill: “Wow, women really respond to this puffed-up act? And guys spend big bucks on it and wind up with more ass than a toilet seat? And I just joined up for this? The world is sad and so am I…”

抑郁——红色药丸的苦涩滋味：“哇，女性真的对这种虚张声势的表演有反应吗？男人们为此大把花钱，结果得到的关注比马桶座还多？而我竟然加入了这个行列？世界是悲哀的，我也同样感到悲哀……”

  1. Acceptance – Game Awareness: “Maybe this IS the way things really work. I guess I should give up the gender relations mythology I’ve been holding onto…hey, what do you think of these negs I came up with?” 接受——游戏意识：“也许这确实是事物运作的真正方式。我想我应该放弃我一直坚持的性别关系神话……嘿，你觉得我这些否定策略怎么样？”

  2. Jaded – MGTOW Permutations: “Fuck learning all these rules. Sex isn’t worth it and women aren’t that fun anyway. The last thing I want to do is learn routines or the 5 stages of pickup. There’s too many websites, too much to read, I can’t remember it all much less sort it all out. Who has all that time to go out and chat up women anyway? It’s not like I see any women under 40 at work at my engineering job to practice on. Video games and porn are more fun and more available. I just haffta look good and let the women come to me”

疲惫* - MGTOW 的变奏：“去他妈的学习所有这些规则。性爱不值得，而且女人也没那么有趣。我最不想做的就是学习套路或搭讪的五个阶段。网站太多，要读的东西太多，我记不住也理不清。谁有那么多时间出去和女人搭讪呢？我在工程工作中也见不到 40 岁以下的女性来练习。电子游戏和色情片更有趣，也更易得。我只需要看起来不错，让女人来找我就行了。”

  • This is a late addition to the list, hardly original and arguably relevant, but I added it for precautionary measures.

  • 这是列表中的一个后期添加项，几乎不具原创性，且可能存在争议的相关性，但我出于预防措施考虑而将其加入。

Before I get the predictable howls of “someone did this before you” (h/t Badger) allow me to put my spin on it. I get a ton of PMs from forum members, and read threads about guys with friends or relatives in, or just getting over, horrible relationships and how they’ve tried to unplug them only to run into stiff resistance. Looking at this process to acceptance it’s no wonder why.

在我听到那句可预见的“有人在你之前就这么做了”（感谢 Badger）之前，让我来谈谈我的看法。我收到了大量来自论坛成员的私信，也阅读了许多关于那些朋友或亲戚正处于，或刚刚走出糟糕关系的人的帖子，他们尝试帮助这些人摆脱困境，却遭遇了强烈的抵触。从接受这一过程的角度来看，这并不奇怪。

So my discussion question for today is this; how did you unplug? Was there some moment of clarity that opened your eyes? Did you go through a process like the one described here? Are you maybe still struggling with a certain phase?

那么，我今天想讨论的问题是：你是如何摆脱束缚的？是否有过某个让你豁然开朗的时刻？你是否经历了类似这里描述的过程？或许你仍在某个阶段苦苦挣扎？