A League of Your Own 自己的联盟

“Rollo, I’m newly Game-aware, red pill guy and I’ve been meeting girls with more and more success since my conversion, but I can’t help the feeling that the really hot girls I want to get with a so out of my league.

“罗洛，我是一个新近觉醒的红药丸男人，自从我转变以来，我越来越成功地认识女孩，但我无法摆脱那种感觉，我真正想得到的热辣女孩对我来说太遥不可及了。

Any suggestions?” 有什么建议吗？”

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8 托马西的铁律 #8

Always let a woman figure out why she wont ƒuck you, never do it for her.

永远让女人自己琢磨她为什么不和你上床，千万别替她想。

An integral part of maintaining the feminine imperative as the societal imperative involves keeping women as the primary sexual selectors. As I’ve detailed in many prior comments and posts, this means that a woman’s sexual strategy necessitates that she be in as optimized a condition as her capacity (attractiveness) allows for her to choose from the best males available to satisfy that strategy.

维持女性至上作为社会至上原则的重要组成部分，涉及将女性作为主要性选择者。正如我在许多先前的评论和文章中所详述的，这意味着女性的性策略要求她在自身能力（吸引力）允许的范围内，处于最佳状态，以便从可获得的优质男性中进行选择，以满足其策略需求。

This is really the definition of hypergamy, and on an individual level, I believe only the most plugged in of men don’t realize this to some degree of consciousness. However, what I think escapes a lot of men is the complex nature of hypergamy on a social scale. For hypergamy to sustain it’s dominant position as the default sexual strategy for our society, it’s necessary for the feminine imperative to maintain existing, foster new, and normalize complex social conventions that serve it. The scope of these conventions range from the individualized psychological conditioning early in life to the grand scale of social engineering (e.g. Feminism, Religion, Government, etc.)

这实际上是超婚配的定义，在个人层面上，我相信只有那些最了解的男人才能在某种程度上意识到这一点。然而，我认为很多男人忽略了超婚配在社会层面的复杂性。为了使超婚配在我们社会中保持其主导地位作为默认的性策略，女性本能必须维持现有、培养新的并使复杂的社会习俗正常化，以服务于它。这些习俗的范围从个体早期的心理条件反射到大规模的社会工程（例如，女权主义、宗教、政府等）。

One of these social conventions that operates in the spectrum of the personal to the societal is the idea of ‘leagues’. The fundamental idea that Social Matching Theory details is that “All things being equal, an individual will tend to be attracted to, and are more likely to pair off with, another individual who is of the same or like degree of physical attractiveness as themselves.” In a vacuum, this is the germ of the idea behind the ‘leagues’. The social convention of ‘leagues’ mentality is where ‘all things are not equal’ and used to support the feminine imperative, while conveniently still supporting the principle of social matching theory.

这些在个人到社会层面运作的社会习俗之一是“联盟”的概念。社会匹配理论详细阐述的基本思想是：“在所有条件相同的情况下，一个人往往会倾向于被与自己具有相同或相似程度的外貌吸引力的人所吸引，并且更有可能与这样的人配对。”在真空中，这是“联盟”概念背后的萌芽。“联盟”心态的社会习俗是在“所有条件并不相同”的情况下，用来支持女性主导的观念，同时仍然方便地支持社会匹配理论的原则。

The latent function of ‘leagues’ is to encourage men to filter themselves out for women’s intimate approval.

“联盟”的潜在功能是鼓励男性为了获得女性的亲密认可而自我过滤。

As social conditions progress and become more complex, so too do men’s ability to mimic the personal attributes of providership and security. In other words, lesser men become intelligent enough to circumvent women’s existing sexual filters and thus thwart their sexual strategy. These ever increasing complexities made it hard to identify optimally suitable men from the pretenders, and women, being the primary sexual selector, needed various social constructs to sort the wheat from the chaff. With each subsequent generation they couldn’t be expected to do all of this detective work on their own so the feminine imperative enlisted the aid of the men themselves and created self-perpetuated, self-internalized social doctrines for men to comply with in order to exist in a feminine defined society.

随着社会条件的发展与复杂化，男性模仿提供者与安全感等个人特质的能力也随之增强。换言之，能力较弱的男性变得足够聪明，能够绕过女性现有的性筛选机制，从而破坏她们的性策略。这些日益增加的复杂性使得识别真正合适的男性与伪装者变得困难，而作为主要性选择者的女性，需要各种社会结构来区分良莠。每一代人都不可能独自完成所有这些侦察工作，因此女性本能地寻求男性的帮助，并创造了自我延续、自我内化的社会教义，要求男性遵守，以便在女性定义的社会中生存。

The concept of leagues is just one of these doctrines. Your self-doubt about your worthiness of a woman’s intimacy stems from a preconditioned idea that ‘you’re out of her league’. The booster club optimist idea that “if you think you can’t, you’re right” is true, and boundless enthusiasm may overcome some obstacles, but to address the source of the disease it’s more important to ask yourself why you’ve been taught to think you can’t. A lot of approach anxiety comes from your own self-impression – Am I smooth, hot, affluent, funny, confident, interesting, decisive, well-dressed enough to earn an HB 9’s attention? How about an HB 6? Our great danger is not that we aim too high and fail, but that we aim too low and succeed.

“阶层”概念只是这些教条之一。你对自身是否配得上女性亲密关系的自我怀疑，源自于一个预设观念——“你配不上她”。“如果你认为自己不行，那你就真的不行”这一乐观主义者的想法是正确的，而无限的热情或许能克服一些障碍，但要想根治病源，更重要的是问自己为何被教导认为自己不行。许多接近焦虑源于你对自己的印象——我是否足够圆滑、迷人、富有、幽默、自信、有趣、果断、穿着得体，以赢得一位 HB 9 的注意？那么 HB 6 呢？我们最大的危险不在于目标过高而失败，而在于目标过低却成功了。

I’m not debating the legitimacy of the evaluative standards of the sexual market place – it’s a harsh, often cruel reality – what I’m really trying to do is open your eyes as to why you believe you’re only meritorious of an HB 7. Looks count for a lot, as does Game, affluence, personality, talent, etc. but is your self-estimation accurate, or are you a voluntary participant in your own self-devaluation in the SMP courtesy of the leagues mentality the feminine imperative would have you believe?

我不是在争论性市场评估标准的合法性——这是一个残酷、常常无情的现实——我真正想做的是让你明白为什么你认为自己只值得一个 HB 7。外表很重要，游戏、财富、个性、才华等也是如此，但你的自我评估准确吗，还是你自愿参与了在性市场中自我贬值的行为，这是女性主导的联盟心态让你相信的？

The Economy of the League 联盟的经济学

As I stated above the purpose of fomenting a stratified League mentality in men serves to autonomously filter the lesser from the greater men for women to chose from, however, it also functions to increase the valuation of the feminine as a commodity. Like any great economic entity, the feminine imperative lives and dies by its ability to inflate its value in the marketplace. Essentially the feminine imperative is a marketeer. One of the sad ironies of this, and the last, century is that the feminine imperative has attempted to base women’s SMP valuation on a collective importance to the detriment of the individual woman’s SMV. For men this is inverted; a man’s sexual valuation is primarily individualized, while men as a collective gender are devaluated in the SMP.

正如我上述所言，煽动男性中分层联盟心态的目的在于自主筛选出较优与较劣的男性供女性选择，然而，此举亦能提升女性作为商品的价值。如同任何伟大的经济实体，女性主导原则的存亡取决于其在市场中提升价值的能力。本质上，女性主导原则是一个市场营销者。本世纪，乃至上个世纪的一大悲哀讽刺在于，女性主导原则试图以集体重要性为基础来提升女性的择偶市场价值，却牺牲了个体女性的性市场价值。对男性而言，情况则相反；男性的性价值主要是个体化的，而作为整体的男性性别在择偶市场中被贬值。

What I mean by this is that, as a collective entity women’s sexuality cannot afford to be perceived as anything less than the more valued prize. If all vaginas are considered the gold standard then men’s sexual default value will always be lower. By this definition men, on whole, are out of women’s league.

我的意思是，作为一个集体实体，女性的性不能被视为低于更有价值的奖品。如果所有的阴道都被认为是黄金标准，那么男性的性默认价值将永远低于女性。根据这个定义，总的来说，男性在女性的联盟之外。

For further consideration lets assume that average men, most being varying degrees of beta, are blessed with the ‘miraculous gift’ of an average woman’s sexual attentions. The power dynamic is already pre-established to defer to a feminine frame, so it’s small wonder that men would be prone to ONEitis even with an objectively average woman. This is the intent of the League schema – to unobjectively predispose men to commitment with women who under objective condition couldn’t enjoy the same selectivity. Roissy once postulated that for a healthy relationship to exist the Man must be recognized by the woman to be 1-2 points above her own SMV. This is a pretty tall order considering the feminine imperative’s emphasis on women’s sexuality being the more valued as default. And this is to say nothing of contemporary women’s overinflated self-evaluations due to the rise of social media.

进一步考虑，假设普通男性，大多数都是不同程度的贝塔，被赋予了“奇迹般的礼物”——普通女性的性关注。权力动态已经预先建立，倾向于女性框架，所以男性容易对一个客观上普通的女人产生 ONEitis 也就不足为奇了。这就是联盟模式的意图——不客观地使男性倾向于与女性建立承诺，而这些女性在客观条件下无法享受同样的优先选择。Roissy 曾经提出，为了健康的恋爱关系，男人必须被女人认为是比她自己的 SMV 高 1-2 分。考虑到女性本能强调女性的性是默认更有价值的，这是一个相当高的要求。更不用说当代女性由于社交媒体的兴起而自我评价过高。

Gaming the League 游戏联盟

All of the above isn’t to say that there isn’t a kernel of truth to the notion of leagues; it’s just not the “truth” men have been led to believe. For as much as the feminine imperative would have men subscribe to Leagues, it equally seeks to exempt women from the same League hierarchy by evaluating women as a whole. Needless to say men have their own rating systems – most popularly the ubiquitously physical HB 10 scale. I should add that it’s a foregone conclusion that any rating system men would establish for women in the feminine reality would necessarily need to be ridiculed, shamed and demonized, but you knew that already.

以上所有内容并不是说联盟的概念没有一点真实性；只是它并不是男性被引导去相信的那种“真相”。正如女性主导的观念会让男性接受联盟一样，它同样试图通过将女性作为一个整体来评估，从而免除女性在同一联盟等级中的地位。不用说，男性有自己的评级系统——最流行的是无处不在的 HB 10 物理尺度。我应该补充的是，任何男性在女性现实中为女性建立的评级系统都必然会被嘲笑、羞辱和妖魔化，但你们已经知道了。

Irrational self-confidence is a good start to circumventing and unlearning the concept of Leagues; unlearning this conditioning being the operative goal. The Game-aware Man can actually use the concept of Leagues to his advantage with enough guile. When you approach a woman without regard to a League mentality or even a Zen-like obliviousness to it, you send the message that there’s more to you than a feminine reality can control. It’s exactly this disregard for the influence of the feminine imperative that makes the Alpha attractive; he’s unaware of, or indifferent to the rules his conditioning should’ve taught him earlier. Just in the attempt of Gaming a woman obviously “out of your league” you flip the feminine script by planting a seed of doubt (and prompting imagination) about your perceived value. Doubt is a very powerful tool, in fact the very concept of Leagues is founded upon men’s self-doubt. Turn that tool to your advantage by disregarding women’s social convention of Leagues.

非理性的自信是绕过并摒弃“联盟”概念的良好开端；摒弃这种条件反射正是关键目标。具备游戏意识的人，若足够狡黠，实际上可以利用“联盟”概念为自己谋利。当你接近一位女性时，若不考虑“联盟”心态，甚至对其保持禅意般的漠然，你传递出的信息是，你远超女性现实所能掌控的范畴。正是这种对女性影响力不屑一顾的态度，使得阿尔法男性具有吸引力；他要么未曾察觉，要么对那些本应由条件反射教会他的规则漠不关心。仅在试图游戏一位明显“超出你联盟”的女性时，你就通过植入一丝疑虑（并激发想象力）颠覆了女性对自身价值的认知。疑虑是一种极其强大的工具，事实上，“联盟”概念正是建立在男性的自我怀疑之上。通过无视女性的社会“联盟”惯例，将这一工具转化为你的优势。